Almost all of us, I’m sure, have people in our lives. Friends, family, partners, neighbours, colleagues. The list goes on. Some of us will be delighted by the people we have around us. We’ll note the joy they bring, and how the relationships enrich our lives. The truth is, though, that not everyone has the […]
Many of us form ideas of what we want to do in the world of work when we are still at school. We make decisions around which subjects to study, and where to study them. Following on from this, we choose when to continue studying and when to start work. Suddenly, we’re on a career
We go through life accruing experiences, some good, some bad, and some indifferent. We process those experiences and most end up safely stored in our memories. It’s all part of the amazing power of the unconscious mind. However, some memories just don’t resolve. For multiple reasons we keep those memories alive, reliving and revisiting them,
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that we can only evaluate behaviour and change in terms of context and ecology. That’s to say, we can only evaluate change if we firstly understand the circumstances in which change has taken place. Secondly, we can only make that evaluation if we can confirm that everyone benefits,
Addiction is such a strange thing. I doubt that anyone sets out to become addicted. And yet, so many become addicted to something. Indeed, at times it feels like we can become addicted to anything. Because addiction is that inability to stop, that inability to retake control. Addiction is that overwhelming desire to continue with
Most, if not all, of us acquire labels which bind and define us as we go through life. We’re children, parents, brothers, sisters, wives, husbands, and partners. We take on job titles, roles within our families, and the labels we give to ourselves. Others impose labels on us, just as we impose labels on them.
In these challenging times many of us are having to think very carefully about how we spend our money. Indeed, many of us are having to cut out the luxuries simply to afford the essentials. It is, therefore, unsurprising that in the work that I do many are reluctant to invest in themselves. Potential clients
Many of us make decisions in our late teens and into our early twenties which have an effect on the next thirty, forty or even fifty years of our lives. For some, this works out well, and I know many who are reaping or have reaped the rewards of those early decisions. Others struggle to
We’re all aware of what stress is, or at least I assume that we’re all aware. There’s enough out there about the nature of stress, the risks of stress, and, seemingly, an endless number of ways of managing it. The message, it appears, is simple: stress is bad and we must take steps to destress.
I had a client who was overcoming addiction, in recovery from cocaine addiction. He explained that it had all started so well, with the occasional line of cocaine at the weekend. The drug gave him the ability to party a little bit longer and drink a little bit more. He noted that it was hard