If I tell you not to think of a blue tree, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Odd, isn’t it? This happens because you can’t think about not thinking about something without thinking about it first. Now think about that! So, what you really need to do is focus on what you want. […]
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that everyone is doing the best that they can with the resources that they have available. In other words, our behaviour and the behaviour of others is the best that we can all do in that moment. This, quite frankly, seemed hard to accept when I see so
I am, like most coaches, keen for my clients to succeed. Consequently, I work with them as they make their plans, establish their goals, and then get out there to make it happen. We are then faced with three possible outcomes: success, feedback, or the failure of trying. There will be times when we do
I recently found myself reading a number of articles about how to improve on a budget the look of your home. Nothing about profound and lasting changes. Just some quick fixes. This ranged from painting a feature wall to dying your bedding. It all seemed so easy, and it struck me that life can be a bit
There is a plethora of self-help books, articles, websites and the like out there. The vast majority genuinely want to assist change and support people into making those changes in the moment and as painlessly as possible. Many perpetuate the myth that it takes 21 or possibly 30 or possibly some other random number of
Entitled and lazy. Is this you? Are these the labels that you have? I recently read an article about Millennials. It was not very complimentary, with recurring themes of entitlement and laziness. Who, I wondered, are these dreadful people? It turns out that Millennials are those born between 1981 and 1996, and it seems that being born
Do you have hopes and aspirations, dreams and ideas, about an exciting and compelling future? Are you letting doubt, a lack of self-belief, the opinions and judgements of others and ourselves, stop those hopes, aspirations, dreams and ideas from even starting? Are you shying away from paying for support for fear of the cost? And,
The idea of perfectionism is fairly easy to understand; striving to do everything in a way which is perfect, flawless, without error. And I’m sure we all know people who are perfectionists, for whom second-best simply will not do. Our pursuit of perfectionism seems harmless enough and, is there anything wrong with wanting everything to
Today is the start of National Walking Month. The aim, of course, is to get us all walking more, moving forward. Indeed, the ideal would be for us all to walk as much as possible. And the charity, Living Streets, advocates for just that; living streets, which make walking both feasible and pleasurable. And it
In the 1960s, Paul Watzlawick proposed five axioms of communication, one of which is that it’s impossible to not communicate. Our words, our tonality, our body language all say something, which may include a desire to not communicate. And by not communicating, we are doing the very thing we don’t want to do; communicate. Indeed,