Many of us have things from the past which cause us angst. Some park the issues and move on. Others get stuck, held back by what appears to be unresolvable. Most, I think, sit somewhere between the two; troubled by the past yet moving forward in some form or another. The past can, though, be […]
It was Father’s Day just over a week ago, and I was able to spend some time with my Dad. He’s edging ever-closer to ninety, and I am aware that the number of Father’s Days we have to left to celebrate are rapidly reducing. It makes each one even more important. This was year it
When the power of supportive networks is so great, what are you doing to build yours? Read More »
It surprises and troubles me that so many people, adults and children, experience recurring issues with anxiety. While a certain level of anxiety is perfectly natural, being so overwhelmed is certainly not. Anxiety for many is hugely debilitating. It stops people from living the life they want to live. Additionally, it reduces choices and options,
It’s a strange feeling when you look at your life and wonder how you got here. You vaguely recall having some idea of what life would look like. However, you never really got beyond that stage. Plans and goals were for others. You prefer to go with the flow and see what life sends your
Have you lost your way now because there was no real direction at the very beginning? Read More »
Those of you who’ve read Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” know that he recommends starting with the end in mind. In other words, before you do anything else, work out where you want to be. It gives purpose. Crucially, it sets the direction. After all, how often do you leave your
When meeting with clients, I often ask how life is going. Many talk about work, family, friends with little enthusiasm. When challenged about the lack of excitement, some refer to life not being what they envisaged as they moved into the world of adulthood. Something happens that leads us to lose that giddy excitement from
If you’ve settled for second-best, what’s stopping you from becoming an actual winner? Read More »
People have many reasons for avoiding plans and goals. A recurring reason is the fear of failure. Some see setting a goal or making a plan as a commitment which you either achieve or you do not. You succeed or you fail. Success may be great. Failure, on the other hand, is a disaster, worthy
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It sometimes surprises me how much therapy some people go through to address their problems. For some, it is the only way that they can move forward. They have a genuine need to resolve the past before they can think about the future. Occasionally, I meet people for whom continuing therapy has become something of
We may have many goals and plans. Alternatively, we might only have one or two. And, of course, we could well be one of those people who simply drifts through life, going with the flow. Success may follow our actions. Consequently, we feel at ease with life and the balance we achieve as success weaves
As you pursue success in some areas, is the rest of your life simply an afterthought? Read More »
It’s a sobering and undeniable fact. We are all going to die eventually. On a personal level my aim is to live as long as possible. Ideally, I want to die with my boots on, frustrated by the realisation in those final moments that I have unfinished plans. And I genuinely hope that your life