One of my clients had not long come out of prison. He was angry. He resented having been in prison for a number of years. Incongruously, he stated that he was now ready to change. And I say incongruously, because everything about his tone, his words, and his demeanour suggested that he was far from […]
When you wake up in the morning, what do you first think about? Is it all about what you have planned for the day? You’re thinking about what you intend to achieve. You’re contemplating the challenges you overcome. And, obviously, you’re considering how you celebrate all of the day’s successes, no matter how big or
Is every day an adventure, or do you start each day with that sinking feeling? Read More »
We are now halfway through January, and the madness of December, Christmas, and New Year feels like a distant memory. Indeed, there may only be two reminders of those times. Firstly, those additional pounds we’ve gained by eating and drinking too much. And secondly, the pounds we’ve lost by spending too much. January really can
Christmas and New Year are times that some people love, some loathe, and some go to great lengths to avoid. You may have had an amazing time. Alternatively, you may be relieved that normality, whatever that is for you, has returned. It’s possible that some of you were with friends and family. I know that
New Year’s resolutions are a waste of time. Most last little more than a month and by the end of year, few of us are sustaining any change. Consequently, we may experience some regret or guilt, the feelings pass, and we repeat the process at the start of the following year. Does this sound familiar?
For some, this year may have been a good one. For others, less so. Of course, it’s possible that your year has gone really badly. Alternatively, you may have had the best year ever. The reality, though, is that this is where you are now. And, no matter how your year has been, it’s what
No matter how your year has been, it’s what you do next that really counts. Read More »
I often find myself thinking about the very varied reasons that people seek out a coach and what they want to achieve from the relationship. Some make major changes, some make small, incremental changes, and some suddenly find their path, changing direction and changing their lives. It’s all about defining the dream and then making
We’re now in the last month of 2023, and it always feels to me as though it’s time to reflect on the year. If we’re planners, we have an idea of where we want to be, having made our plans and set our goals in preparation at the start of the year. Of course, we
The NLP Model of Communication explains how we experience reality through our five senses. We process that sensory information, running it through a number of filters. This includes deleting, distorting, and generalising. We feed it through experiences of time, energy, and matter, through memories and decisions, through preferences and attitudes. Finally, we store an internal
The idea with boundaries is that in your life you make it clear how you want to use your time and your energy. The expectation is that you make the rules and others respect them, just as you respect the boundaries that others set. It’s a process that generally works well. There are, of course,