I often find myself thinking about the very varied reasons that people seek out a coach and what they want to achieve from the relationship. Some make major changes, some make small, incremental changes, and some suddenly find their path, changing direction and changing their lives. It’s all about defining the dream and then making it happen. And where are you? Are you ready for the next step or are you already giving up?
A recent client came to me because she was fed up. She had drifted from job to job. She was, by her own admission, extraordinarily disorganised. Above all else, she had a dream which she never seemed able to get off the ground.
So, like every good coaching relationship, we explored the reality of her present. We looked at what was working and what could be working better. She really wasn’t sure about her poor organisational skills, noting that her days started well and then went downhill. Interestingly, she admitted that she had never really known what she wanted to do with her life. Additionally, she repeatedly expressed sadness at the drift, and guilt for not having made more of herself.
We then looked at what she wanted to do with the rest of her life. Initially, she was hesitant, vaguely mentioning that she wasn’t really sure. There were odd hints in her language about maybe there was a plan. Everything about her words, her tonality and her physiology suggested that she was holding back.
I had a range of options. We could skirt around the issue. I could push, digging deeper and deeper. Or, I could point out the incongruency and the impression that she did in fact have an idea. So, that’s what I did.
She had a real idea. A really big idea. She confessed that she had toyed with the idea for many years. Initially, she was hesitant. Eventually, she got into full flow about the plan and what it meant for her. She was animated and emotional. It was joyous to see. And then it was gone. A return to the sadness and the guilt
We ran Time Line Therapy™, the perfect technique for releasing negative emotions from the past. We ran the process for anger, a masking emotion for many. The release was huge! Indeed, it is one the biggest releases of an emotion that I have ever witnessed. She had been carrying a burden for over forty years, and suddenly it was gone. Wrapped up in the sadness and the guilt was a huge amount of anger, something she had not realised.
The barriers were gone. Her motivation was all-consuming. She made a plan, stating that she felt liberated and able. She was ready to make it happen. Crucially, she acknowledged the hard work and challenges that would take her from where she was to where she wanted to be.
By way of an update, she’s doing. It’s happening. She’s making it happen. If you can make it happen, do it now. If you’re not sure, book a free consultation here, and then work out the next step. You know that you can do it and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?
