When meeting with clients, I often ask how life is going. Many talk about work, family, friends with little enthusiasm. When challenged about the lack of excitement, some refer to life not being what they envisaged as they moved into the world of adulthood. Something happens that leads us to lose that giddy excitement from our teens and roaring twenties. The reality of life seemingly crushing our dreams as we settle into our thirties and the rest of our lives. I find myself wondering if it has to be that way, more so when I meet those who are firmly bucking that trend. And, what about you? If you’ve settled for second-best, what’s stopping you from becoming an actual winner?
It’s easy to get caught up in the reality of day-to-day life. We go to work. We pay our bills. Some of us marry. Some of us have children. The safety of the routine somehow becomes the destination. And then one day we’re old and tired, regretting all that we didn’t do. How do we do this to ourselves?
There is, of course, something very reassuring about routine. We know where we are, and we know what we’re doing. Consequently, we plan to maintain the routine. We book our annual holiday. Similarly, we organise gatherings with friends and family. By setting out these markers, life unfolds in a way which we can manage.
That, it seems to me, is a crucial factor. We live in an ever-changing world and yet most of us don’t like change. It’s unsettling and challenging. The fear of failure rears its ugly head. We worry about others judging us and we’re really good at judging ourselves.
Further to this, our limiting beliefs fill us with self-doubt. Are we really good enough, worthy enough, bright enough to make those changes for the better? And then we give up, defeated before we’ve even started by us, our own worst enemy.
You do, though, have a choice. You can maintain the status quo, with its lacklustre routine and reassuring security. Alternatively, you can work out what you need to do to move from second place into the winning position. Life may be challenging, and it may lead to unexpected outcomes. It’s likely to return you to the excitement that you once knew and embraced.
If you know what to do, do it now. If you’re not sure, book an initial consultation here, and then take the next step. You know that you can do it, and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?
