Some past events just won’t go away. You think they’re gone, something happens, and suddenly you’re back in the moment. Somehow, you immediately experience those powerful unresolved negative emotions as you revisit the terrible events which you just can’t forget or forgive. Indeed, the events may be such that it’s more a case of won’t forgive or forget.
You may believe that those powerful negative emotions (anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt) keep you safe. By constantly revisiting those painful events you somehow kid yourself that it stops the same thing from happening again. And, most certainly, it stops the perpetrator from getting away with what they did. All because you’re perpetually affected by the event and the emotion. It’s almost as if they’ll suffer because you’re repeatedly drinking the poison!
And you have to do all of this consciously. Because the unconscious mind wants to do what it always does with memories. It wants to store the event as it always does. Equally, it wants to store the emotions as it always does. It stores events and emotions separately. Of course, you can access those memories at any time, and you can remember how you felt. You simply don’t experience the event and the emotion with the same intensity as you did at the time. However, you are not the same person. You have perspective. And this is how the unconscious mind works so perfectly.
By allowing the emotions from past events to colour your present, you miss opportunities and possibilities. You limit yourself, resisting and missing options because they appear, in your emotionally clouded judgment, to be too similar to what has affected you so badly. The weight can be so great that your attention is on the weight of the emotion rather than what is happening now.
So, you can carry on as you are now. You may carry the burden, and the burden will take your energy and your attention, depriving you of new opportunities and choices. Those events, those people, those emotions can continue to live rent-free in your mind. You may, though, want to reflect for a moment. How much do you want to suffer for something to which the other person may give absolutely no thought? Ask yourself how bad does it have to get before you’re willing to do something.
If, on the other hand, you are ready to let go and change, there is a fast and easy process that allows the event and the emotion to resolve themselves. The memory is still there. You can carry forward the learnings which does a far better job at protecting you. And then you can get on with the rest of your life. Allow the memories and emotions to resolve themselves. Your unconscious mind will thank you. Treat the source of the negative emotions with indifference. When you’re ready to take that step, book an initial consultation here to begin the process. What’s the worst that can happen? And you know the answer to that already, don’t you?Some
